How can you possibly forget someone you’ve been with for almost 11 years of your life?

There are a lot of questions on my mind during our 1st month of break up.

Why did he do it?

Was it my fault?

Was I not a good partner?

I was still in denial that time. I thought we can still work things out and that we can save whatever we have. After all, we’ve been together for 10.5 years right? He must’ve love me, or so I thought.

Days passed. No phone calls. No messages.

That’s when realization starts to hit me, maybe he really wants to get out of this relationship. It was over.

It was a difficult process. Moving on and trying to start your life over again. I felt lost.

But hey, life is not over. And we always have to keep moving forward.

Here are the things I made within the past 6 months trying to cope up with the change:

1) Find a new hobby.

I think it is very important to find new hobbies that will make you busy and get you to know more about yourself.

As for me, the first thing I did was circuit training. I enrolled in Pound for Pound together with my friend. Until now, I still do it. It keeps my mind busy and preoccupied. Plus, I feel confident about myself and I think that is very important.

Next, TRAVEEEEEEL. I really enjoy travelling. I am not a frequent traveler but when I have the chance I go for it. I usually book my tickets during piso fare deals. If you had read my previous blogs, the first destination I went to after our break-up was in IloIlo City.

Travelling makes my soul happy.

2) Spend time with your friends and family.

This helped me a lot. During the first few months of our break-up, I always spend my free time with my friends. We stay at this local tea house near our subdivision. Or sometimes we eat at a korean bbq (samgyupsal). That’s our favorite! lol.

I really think that you should have your core group. Your set of friends where you can tell anything you want to and they will always understand even if you keep on ranting the same thing everyday. lol!

I also started engaging a lot with other family members (such as titas and titos). We have this group chat in messenger and that is also where I told them what happened with our relationship.

3) Try not to be bitter about your ex.

Oops! This one is really hard. But I am doing this for myself and not for him.

We had our happy times. It wasn’t a toxic kind of relationship. It’s just things changed, we didn’t realize that we have grown apart. I also had to understand, that I too have shortcomings. I shouldn’t put all the blame on him.

4) Treat yourself!

Eat at a restaurant!

Go to that spa!

Buy that dress!

As for me, I really enjoy going to the nail and spa center. I always have my GEL NAILS done. I really love it because it stays long  on your nails without chipping. Gel Nails are a must!

However, it is quite costly, cheapest price is P 400 and will last for about 3 – 4 weeks. That’s why now, that I feel much better I use regular nail polish again. (Minimum wage earner alert! haha)

5) Spend ME time

It is good that I get to spend some quality “ME TIME.”

When I want to have quality time alone, I go to the mall, window shop or go and see a movie.

I usually stay at my favorite local tea house near our subdivision (kapetearya) whenever I want a quiet time alone. Drinking my favorite yakult tea (passion fruit tea) and just browsing through my social media apps.

 

I learned to take it slow and just to go with the flow. I cry when I feel like it. I message him once in a while before just so I could pour all that emotions within me. And little by little, I felt okay. I can’t say that I have really moved on now and that I am a 100% okay. But I know that I will be. I am still trying to fix myself and bring back the confidence I lost. And I must say, I think I’m doing a pretty good job!